tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post297778915210535939..comments2023-11-20T09:06:00.615-05:00Comments on Koru Wedding Style: Hi, My Name Is . . .Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06617306916286373148noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post-29644791869915589362011-12-05T16:29:14.113-05:002011-12-05T16:29:14.113-05:00Whatever you decide to do, you can count on the he...Whatever you decide to do, you can count on the help of www.hitchswitch.com through every step :)Joshhttp://www.hitchswitch.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post-45589669803980484872011-11-16T10:42:58.667-05:002011-11-16T10:42:58.667-05:00Thanks for your kind, thoughtful comments! I have...Thanks for your kind, thoughtful comments! I have SO much to think about. Hopefully I will soon have a follow up post with the good news of my final decision :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06617306916286373148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post-51238662153448728282011-11-15T22:28:21.467-05:002011-11-15T22:28:21.467-05:00I hope you can make a decision soon. Does your hu...I hope you can make a decision soon. Does your husband have any thoughts on it? I know from my own family that the women keep their maiden names. I don't really know why but that's how I grew up so I think most likely I would keep mine if that time should ever come when I have to decide.<br /><br /><br />-Ly<br />http://www.lyzhang.comLyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08473398317237221093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post-47740441009297108942011-11-15T18:03:28.274-05:002011-11-15T18:03:28.274-05:00Our story is a little backwards, but the bottom li...Our story is a little backwards, but the bottom line is that I won't be changing my name. I'm happy to be Mrs Husband to our future children, but at the end of the day, my name isn't maiden or otherwise-it's mine. Don't worry if it takes you some time to decide what feels right, and don't feel pressure to make this decision quickly-you'll only make it once.A Crimson Kisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00474778213617208638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post-44462881102617046922011-11-15T16:52:13.006-05:002011-11-15T16:52:13.006-05:00There is no rule on having 2 middle names & wh...There is no rule on having 2 middle names & who would really know? It's not often you write out your full name any more. And think of it this way: when you have kids & they ask why you have 2 middle names you can tell them how special those names are to you and how you couldn't bring yourself to dropping one of them. <br />At the end of the day, choose what feels right for you. Whichever name(s) you choose, your family - & most importantly your husband- love you!MMSChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09888710000917099131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post-73088005613980900782011-11-15T16:41:57.371-05:002011-11-15T16:41:57.371-05:00I'm so sorry. I thought I was having trouble c...I'm so sorry. I thought I was having trouble changing my name, but my only baggage was the hassle involved, no family drama.<br /><br />There's nothing wrong with having four names!<br /><br />On the other hand, maybe there is a way you can incorporate Ann OR Sullivan into your life other than as your name. I grew up with a beautiful wood sign hanging in our kitchen that had my maiden name carved into it. Wall art, or jewelry (maybe a ring with the name stamped or engraved in it?) could be a way of honoring that part of your family even if you drop the name in question from you Social Security card. Ya know?Elspeth H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14958509525733180773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post-80349035472355094802011-11-15T11:57:08.596-05:002011-11-15T11:57:08.596-05:00I'm sorry you are struggling so much with this...I'm sorry you are struggling so much with this. My only words of advice are...if you are planning to have kids - please change your name! Keeping your maiden name might make things easier for you, but your kids friends, their parents, teachers, etc. will all struggle. You will get a lot of "Hi Mrs. uhhhh" followed by awkward silence and uncomfortable looks. Additionally, I think kids feel a stronger sense of security & belonging with having a "family name" - but it may just be my old-fashioned views. All in all - whatever you choose will be the right thing for you.Aunt Taminoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post-42203459061200666412011-11-15T11:03:19.483-05:002011-11-15T11:03:19.483-05:00I kept with tradition and took my hubby's last...I kept with tradition and took my hubby's last name. Sorry you're struggling. I'm sure it's hard not feel like you're losing a part of your identity.{The Perfect Palette}https://www.blogger.com/profile/14757441474371776203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post-83584665745748241032011-11-15T10:00:22.777-05:002011-11-15T10:00:22.777-05:00For my first marriage, I took my husband's las...For my first marriage, I took my husband's last name, and took my maiden name back in the divorce. Following that, I re-examined my reasons for changing my name in the first place. I felt that I had done it to conform to expectations without considering what was best FOR ME. My name is part of my identity, and it was important to me to represent that. My legal name is still my maiden name, 4 years into my second marriage.<br /><br />As someone who's done both, I recommend finding whatever method works for you, and taking your time to find it. As I know you're aware, you don't have to change your name right now, you can wait a few years. Figure out how you want your name to express your personal identity and then do what you need to do.<br /><br />Personally, I'm a big fan of using all of the names, as Libby suggested: Kathleen Ann Sullivan HisLastName. You could even change the order: Kathleen Ann HisLastName Sullivan. Play with all of the options (I mean ALL, including both of you taking both names or creating a brand new last name) and find out what works. Good Luck!!Shadow Boxernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1786987900464601872.post-66713802694688309292011-11-15T06:57:33.845-05:002011-11-15T06:57:33.845-05:00I'm so sorry this has been such a hard process...I'm so sorry this has been such a hard process. I admire how you are honoring your family through names. I didn't know about your dad and I see now how that can make this more difficult. This might not help now, but if you plan to have kids, you can always name them after your mom or dad. Also, who says you can't have two middle names??? You can drop your middle name legally, but it will always be your middle name, right?Libbyhttp://www.followthewife.comnoreply@blogger.com